Essential Question # 5

The Code of Courtly Love

1) Two people must first be acquaintances, then friends, before finally attempting a romantic relationship. It is improper to force yourself on another person, and no one should enter a relationship expecting it to be romantic. If it is to be, the romantic relationship will come naturally.

2) The initiator of the relationship should be the male. However, the female is allowed to attempt to initiate the relationship should she feel it necessary(No rushing things, though).

3) The two people must tell their friends and family of their significant other within a week of recognizing their romantic relationship. This revelation must take place in person.

4) The two people must introduce their friends and family to their significant other within a month of recognizing their romantic relationship.

5) When the two people feel mutually ready, they should plan a date in an area that interests them both. This allows them both to behave comfortably and naturally. The initiator of said date does not matter.

6) While on a date that requires money, the person who initiated the date should be expected to pay. However, the male should be expected to at least offer to pay for the date regardless of whether or not he offered. The couple splitting the cost is also acceptable.(In the case of a homosexual or lesbian couple, the buyer can be decided amongst themselves).

7) Once a couple feels comfortable enough with each other, one of them can plan a date with the other in a surprise location that they feel their significant other would enjoy. The initiator of these dates must pay close attention to the reaction of their significant other once they arrive at their destination in order to be sure that their date is enjoying themselves, and be prepared to leave should their significant other become uncomfortable. The initiator of these dates does not matter.

8) Either of the two people in a romantic relationship are allowed to initiate the first kiss. Should the other not be ready, the initiator is required to stop immediately out of respect. The one who refused should explain their reasons for not feeling ready and forgive the other for trying to kiss them. Try to make such an awkward situation as comfortable as possible, for it could save the relationship.

9) Both individuals in a romantic relationship should readily compliment the other on their appealing qualities, and avoid using malicious insults.

10) Once the two people are comfortable with each other, they should plan a formal date in which friends or family is present. The initiator of this date should be whoever has such an opportunity available.